So, over the past few weeks since starting my new job I have truly realised how hard it is for Single Mums to work. The government and associated people always take the time to slag off single mums for not working which I do get, in some aspects. But I get why people stay at home.
As some of you may know, My ex left in January and I got made redundant at the same time. Talia was like 9 months old! I took the decision to get myself back on my feet and adjust to our new routine alone together. I have only just started a new job this September. And I am so glad I waited because its the right job for me and I spent quality time with my daughter.
Now, I don’t regret going back to work. But I have had nothing but hassle with the various benefit teams. I notified each one on the day I started work, I am a person who is hugely organised! It has been over a month now and the ‘housing benefit’ team are still causing undue stress. Telling me different things every five minutes! Now, my wages only just cover my rent. I can’t physically afford to work more hours because of childcare so I do depend on that top up from Housing and Tax Credits which is nothing to be ashamed of! At the end of the day, I didn’t set out for this scenario..I always thought I would be with her dad forever! Im spending day after day worrying and worrying that I wont have enough for everything because they are messing me about so much. I know what I am entitled to and they keep asking for evidence Ive already given them. Its going around in a vicious circle. I don’t think its fair for anyone to have to have this stress, especially alone! At the moment I feel that its caused more trouble starting a job than it was staying out of work! I love being able to provide for T and being able to work with adults. Its just really bugging me it is made impossible for single mothers. Childcare itself is a pain! I’m working to pay for Talia to go to nursery essentially.
I hate the UK. I hate our government, I hate Mendip Council and I just hate the label single mothers have!